Tuesday, January 17, 2017

January | A New Perspective


As we enter 2017, we have a renewed sense of joy and perspective.  We’ve made it through some very tough times and while we’ve been forthcoming on this blog, there have also been some extremely low periods.  We’ve relied on your prayers and support, the strength from each other, and Neve’s positive outlook.  And we have learned a lot from how Neve handled herself with grace and determination.  I’m sure we’ve said it before…but we are so thankful to be her parents.


We will do our best to keep you updated along the way, but please know that no news is good news.  Most of all, thank you all for your support and prayers.  It’s been amazing hearing all the ways you’ve kept Neve in your thoughts.  And please know, if we can be of help to anyone by sharing our story, we are happy to do so.

December | No time to rest, it’s Christmas!


When did December get here?  Seriously!  We returned home from our trip and all of a sudden it’s December.  So much  to get done - finish up year-end work projects, get ready for Christmas, school plays, Santa visits, Elf hunting, cookie making, seeing friends and family.  You all know how this goes!  Neve handled all of it with grace and joy.  We really felt the magic of the season this year, with so much to be grateful for. 

December 27th we were back to Cincinnati for her MRI.  We made the trip a day early so we could stay with our Ohio friends.  Neve has been begging to see Ava for months.  I can’t believe it had been a year since they’d seen each other.  Just like old friends they picked up right where they left off.  We can’t wait to see them again soon.

The MRI was another easy procedure.  The boys came with us this time since they were out of school and have been begging to come with us.  They got to meet Neve’s oncologist who is wonderful.  He reported that everything continues to remain stable.  He wants to see her two more times in 2017 before he feels confident that we’ve reached the next milestone.   

The last few days of December included Neve losing her first tooth and spending some great quality time with our WI family over NYE.

November | I’m a Wish Kid!

November was filled with anticipation for our Make-a-Wish Trip Disney.  Before we get started just have to say what an incredible organization Make-A-Wish is and how truly amazing the volunteers at Make-A-Wish and Give Kids the World are!  They had everything planned for us.  Now, those who know me well know I had a hand in making sure things were even more planned :)

Prior to our Disney trip we had an EUA in Cincinnati.  The doctors were able reaffirmed that Neve is still cancer-free but they were expecting her to have more vision in her right eye.  Unfortunately Neve’s cataract has redeveloped, which is partially contributing to her lack of vision in that eye.  The good news is that it can be fixed, but we need to wait until she’s been at least a year out from her last chemo, which was in Feb or March.  So sometime in the first Quarter of 2017 she will have an EUA and then after that we can schedule cataract surgery.  It is likely Neve will need glasses for a few years, which she’s pretty excited about!  Wearing glasses will also help protect her left eye from any possible future injury.  When we think back to what we’ve been through, this seems surprisingly manageable!  They also were comfortable to push out our next EUA for four months.  It’s hard to even remember being there every 2 or 3 weeks. 

We got home from Cinci just in time to organize and pack for our Make a Wish trip to Disney.  Everything about our trip was, well…magical.  That may sound like a cliché - but it is so true.  We were given the red-carpet treatment every step of the way. 

Like many of you, I visited Disney as a kid (Clay did, too, actually- all the way from NZ!).  I have fond memories of It’s a Small World, Peter Pan and horrifying memories of the Haunted Mansion.  We even took the boys when they were 4 and 2 and I was pregnant with Neve.  However, this trip changed my perception of Disney.  As parents, the best gift of all was watching all three of our kids experience the wonder.  It’s that feeling of love for your kids and the constant hoping that time will slow down so you can savor every ounce of their being.   Each of our kids gave us deeper glimpses into their personalities, which will be our best keepsake of all:


Jackson:  Turned 10 on our first full-day.  We spent the entire day at Universal studios.  Throughout the week we spent a lot of time with our arms around each other.  He’d often turn to me and say, “I love you, mom.  I love you, Dad.  I’m so thankful we are here together.  Please thank the people from Make-A-Wish.”  Oh and let’s not forget the roller coasters. This kid takes after his dad with a newfound love of them.  I hope he’ll never forget how tight I squeezed his hand as we went flying over Sea World on the “Manta”.  I’ll never forget him calming me down while he still managed to scream at the top of his lungs.  

Myers:  So many amazing things to say about this kid.  He is our literal one.  He realized how special we had it as we used our Genie Pass to by-pass everyone waiting in line.  He’d say, “We’d better enjoy this now b/c we’ll never have this opportunity again!”  This is also the kid who savored every lick of ice cream we had for breakfast most every day.   Myers handles being the middle child so wonderfully.  He’s a great younger brother to Jackson- always looking up to him and finding ways to make him laugh.  And he is an amazing older brother to Neve.  He looks out for her in a way that makes my heart swell.    

A favorite memory with Myers was on the Safari at Animal Kingdom. 
Myers: “MOM!!  I’m SO glad we came here.” 
Me:  “Why buddy?”
Myers:  “Look how amazing that Giraffe is!!  I’ve NEVER seen a Giraffe up close before!”
Me:  “Sure you have.  You’ve been to the zoo.”
Myers:  “But this is the SAFARI, not the zoo.  How incredible is that Giraffe?!” 
You are right, buddy.  It is all pretty incredible.  And so are you.


Neve:   I’ll just say it bluntly.  Neve rocked Disney.   This girl was so proud to be a wish-kid and was happy to tell anyone who asked.  She loved that her Wish Button is what allowed us to have ice-cream all day long at the Give Kids the World Village.   Watching her meet the characters was enchanting.  And helping make her wish come true brought many tears of happiness and relief.  Neve became Elsa by getting the full-treatment at the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique.  Neve got to meet Elsa.  And Neve got to learn Elsa’s powers.  It was the most magical encounter I’ve ever seen.  She grinned ear-to-ear.  I found myself taking so many pictures just to capture the joy on her face.  It was a moment of closure for us in so many ways.  And then, of course, we purchased an obscene amount of souvenirs and used that Genie Pass to ride the Frozen ride over and over and over!  Because we could! 
 Before we end the Disney re-cap, we do have some thanks to share:
  •        Make A Wish:  Thank you to our volunteers, Tiffany and Lisa, who helped make this happen.  Thank you to Schahet hotels for raising money for Neve’s wish.  Thank you to everyone who supported our journey with a gift to Make A Wish. 
  •         Give Kids the World:  What an amazing place.  We are so grateful such a place exists to provide an amazing vacation to so many deserving kids and their families.
  •         The Potts Family:  What a treat to spend a few hours with you all.  We’ll never forget our Splash Mountain and Thunder Rail Road fun!
  •        The Williams Family:   Was so great running into you.  Thanks for the tips and for the friendly faces on our travels home.  Not sure we would have made it on that plane without your help J
   One final photo.  This is one of our favorites of our sweet girl.  It speaks for itself. 




October | Fall Fun


In all honesty, October was filled with school, soccer, fall fun, Halloween galore, more soccer and a trip to WI to see family.  It feels good to be back into a normal crazy life.  Although the hectic kid schedule is enough to wear us out, again, when put into perspective we will take it.  A year ago Neve was in the hospital & under anesthesia every 2-3 weeks, chemotherapy every 3 weeks, weekly blood tests, getting poked, prodded and MRI’s -  she was tired, weak and had no energy.  But in all her grace, she never complained.  A year later, seeing her energy levels back to normal, watching her skip everywhere makes us realize how just horrible she felt.  So we face our “busy” schedule head-on while keeping perspective about the things that matter most to us in this life.

September | Childhood Cancer Awareness Month

This is a post I wrote on my facebook page.  It sums up our frame of mind for September 24th the one year anniversary of Neve’s Diagnosis:


“I've been thinking a lot about perspective. Here are these three ready for a full weekend of soccer. You know what it took to get this shot- finding three uniforms, socks, shin guards, cleats, water, "smile! Like you like each other!"... Almost got there.

But I'll take every ounce of that. Because these aren't real problems or stressors. I know there is so much worse going on in the world and my heart aches for that.

However, we celebrate this day. One year ago today we faced any parents' worst nightmare--"you daughter has cancer." Our world came crumbling down. I'll never forget that morning. I watched her go back for her exam and knew our lives would never be the same from that moment on.
In a way, there was a sense of relief knowing they knew exactly what was wrong, but also a pervasive amount of fear. We faced that fear head on because all we could do was help her fight. And that she did. All three of these kids did.

Over the past year we've been forced to focus on getting her cancer-free. And she did it!! As we get further away from being in the thick of her treatments, we are getting back to more normal life. But we try to maintain perspective about what matters and what doesn't.

I'll take hunting for soccer gear down to the last minute any day over chemotherapy. #perspective #childhoodcancerawarwnessmonth”
 

August | Officially Cancer Free!!


Early August was mostly about recovering from vacation and celebrating Neve’s 5th  birthday.  Oh, and starting Kindergarten!  What a wonderful few months.  This is what we should have been focused on, right?!

August 31st we headed back to Cincinnati for an EUA.  We have been praying for the fluid to reabsorb into the eye, the pressure to remain normal, and for the cancer to remain gone.  We met with the doctors after the exam and they gave us the most amazing news yet.  Neve is officially cancer-free!  Based on where we’ve been since Feb/March I had been wondering if this day would actually come.  People talk about their day, but we have been approaching this for months but not hearing those exact words.  But boy did we hear them.  The doctors said they rejoiced in the OR with their team.  It was even more special knowing that the team in the OR had all been on Neve’s case at one point in time during the past 9 months.  They said they don’t often have these days so they took a minute to celebrate for us.  

During our meeting with them, they revealed how serious Neve’s case really was.  They thanked us for trusting them and working together to find a way to heal and keep her eye.  So while she still has a ways to go toward being able to see, the steps we’ve taken have proven successful in her treatment.  In hindsight we realized how grave the situation was a year ago and are so thankful for the care we’ve received from our doctors both here in Indy and in Cincinnati. 

While Neve loved the Walk for Wishes Day, for us, this was THE BEST DAY EVER!!!

July | My frog does ballet!

We spent most of July on some form of much-welcomed vacation.  We traveled a good portion of the upper-Midwest to see friends and family and to have some great quality time in the car together.  Yes, we said it!  We actually got along and had FUN in the car.  Sure there were arguments over the small things like being in each other’s space, who ate the last Oreo, and electronics not being charged.  But we will fondly remember the family, friends, fun and beautiful landscapes from this summer. 

Our travels took us to Lake Maxinkukee, Janesville/Edgerton WI, St. Germain WI, the UP, Mackinaw, Pentwater, South Bend, Camp Eberhart and Lake Lemon all in July.  

Lots of driving, packing, unpacking and laundry - but lots of great memories too.

One of my favorites was at our friends’ lake house in Mackinaw.  After 7 hours in the car we escaped to the beach and lake for much needed stretch, swim and beverage.  The kids found lots of frogs hopping on the beach.  Neve caught one and didn’t let it go.  She held on to it for two straight hours!  I’m not sure how the frog felt about this newfound friendship.  Especially when I heard Neve exclaim proudly to her brothers, “MY frog does ballet!”  I looked over and she had her frog doing plies in her hand.


June 2016 | The Best Day Ever


On June 20th & 21st we traveled to Cincinnati for an MRI of Neve’s eyes and brain.  She is under anesthesia for the MRIs, but they are fairly quick compared to other treatments.  Her recovery is very fast.  We often reflect back that a year ago we’d be freaking out about any of our kids having any sort of anesthesia let alone an MRI.  Now it just feels like the least painless procedure she’s had all year.

We received a good report.  Her right eye shows no signs of the old tumor growing, no new tumors, her left eye and her brain remain clear.  For two years they want MRIs every six months to ensure everything remains stable.  This milestone coupled with her turning six in 2017 will significantly reduce the chances for recurrence.

During this visit she also had an Exam Under Anesthesia (EUA) to look at both of her eyes.  The scleral buckling procedure continues to show the retina healing.  However, there remains a thick, gunky fluid in her eye so they can’t get a clear look at the dormant tumor or to see if there are any new seeds.  Nonetheless, they give us the go-ahead to push the next appointment out to 8-10 weeks.  This is a huge relief as it allows us to enjoy summer!

There’s no slowing us down as June 25th brings the Make-A-Wish Walk for Wishes.  So many of you provided support to our team’s effort and we were recognized as being the number one fundraising team there. Thank you!!   Neve was SO giddy to be a wish kid and have so many friends and family there with her and for her.  We even made the local news:  http://cbs4indy.com/2016/06/25/hoosiers-wake-up-to-walk-for-wishes-to-help-kids-with-life-threatening-illnesses/


Neve declared it THE BEST DAY EVER!!